tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post1063751657423854947..comments2023-06-28T11:26:55.194-04:00Comments on Dancing through NC: What Exactly Happened Between Us: Part 1KT My Ladyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-83296133852744351252010-08-25T13:33:49.100-04:002010-08-25T13:33:49.100-04:00Sugarkanke, so glad you are liking the blog. It is...Sugarkanke, so glad you are liking the blog. It is quite a journey, and reading this post over again, I see how far I've come. Glad you're reading. :-)KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-59567864966974651872010-08-25T12:06:09.939-04:002010-08-25T12:06:09.939-04:00I found this blog from a friend's friend's...I found this blog from a friend's friend's followers list and just checked it out.Omg ! what a beautiful blog,sharing everything isn't easy but rather courageous.Everyone going through this would be able to relate to this and also feel they are not alone.<br />It is just a matter of time and you would bounce back,which you are starting to from the 26 days later post you wrote.sugarkankehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15729680253987757126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-52879484349837979992010-04-01T19:54:45.139-04:002010-04-01T19:54:45.139-04:00Isnt it something to realize something this HUGE a...Isnt it something to realize something this HUGE and not break up becasue we are too busy caring? In my 1st relationship we had this kind of talk in dec but didnt break up until April!? What the heck!?<br /><br />p.s. I admire you for putting all this out here in blogosphere. Hopefully it will help the healing process =DNicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108218998705465146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-50008787045980935272010-03-31T22:20:27.867-04:002010-03-31T22:20:27.867-04:00Aww, L! Didn't mean to make you cry, but I gue...Aww, L! Didn't mean to make you cry, but I guess pain is pain is pain. We all feel it. And while SCL is a wonderful man, I do hope to find someone who clicks with me better next time.<br /><br />Ann, I hadn't listened to that song in a LONG time! This is definitely the attitude I'm trying to have through this process. It isn't always easy, but I'm sure trying.KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-51279510916294524322010-03-31T19:43:02.693-04:002010-03-31T19:43:02.693-04:00p.s. have you ever listened to Carrie Underwood...p.s. have you ever listened to Carrie Underwood's "Lessons Learned?"..you should. Lemme know what you think. :)Annanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-52708859409579525862010-03-31T17:25:00.976-04:002010-03-31T17:25:00.976-04:00While reading this my eyes actually filled with te...While reading this my eyes actually filled with tears! I can just feel your pain, I think we've all been in that place before! It would kill me too not knowing where it was coming from and it seems like he was so casual about! I'm happy you realize you deserve so much better!the "L" spothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00320602994752272984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-6252271364603097462010-03-31T16:18:23.340-04:002010-03-31T16:18:23.340-04:00Never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined t...Never in my wildest dreams would I have imagined the blogosphere to be a place to find such compassionate, loving community and with people I've never met before. Anna, thank you for asking me to spell things out (more to come when I can work up the guts!), and for sharing your heart and story with me. Just knowing that navigating this journey and writing about it are helping someone (wonderful you!) assures me that all shall be well (to paraphrase Julian of Norwich). I'll keep writing; don't you worry. You keep taking good care of yourself. Glad to have friends in this process.KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-12265917490684064152010-03-31T16:06:57.276-04:002010-03-31T16:06:57.276-04:00Its amazing how at different points in your life y...Its amazing how at different points in your life you can look at a picture from the past (i.e. your st. lucia picture) and think how cute...the 2 chairs, together, symbolizing our relationship. And now...the 2 empty chairs look rather lonely...as does the whole picture.<br /><br />Anyhow...I'm the one who asked about what exactly happened between you two so i appreciate the post as well as the semi shout out lol...i'm sure it's not easy reliving the experience. You may not feel brave or courageous for doing any of this but trust me...I have been going through a rollercoaster of emotions and hell the past month and I too....thought this guy was my soulmate...breaking up was not even an option...yet he left...and hasn't even looked back. I can't explain the difference between having somebody say "omg i'm so sorry i've been there stay strong the only thing that helps is time...etc etc" as opposed to reading what you're going through. There's something therapeutic about reading that somebody shares the exact same emotions as you. A strong confident woman, who obviously has her head on straight and has a good job and is essentially independent...and to watch her breakdown. Just how you mention being at work and you're in a meeting and all you can think about is your ex. I mean...there was literally times where I would go out with my friends and we would be in a crowd and someone would be telling a story and everyone would be laughing and I would just watch them laugh and try and remember what it's like to just be happy and be able to crack up at some stupid joke. It all seemed surreal to me. I would sit on the subway to work and look at people and think "I wish i was in their shoes right now...they dont feel how i feel right now...they just see a girl on the subway...they don't know my heart is completely broken"<br /><br />You ARE strong and you are brave because if it makes any difference...you've helped me. This blog is so inspirational and I love your honesty and the random curses you throw in because that's just how you feel. I love it all...seriously...don't stop. <br /><br />-ivillage friend and now loyal blog follower :)annanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-75893213223685601512010-03-31T16:03:09.771-04:002010-03-31T16:03:09.771-04:00Cee, really glad you like the blog. I like it, too...Cee, really glad you like the blog. I like it, too. :-) As for your situation, I really hope my blog does not come across as a cautionary tale about dating students. I really think that SCL's being a student had only a partial impact on our breaking up. Had we both wanted to make it work, we could have for sure. But yeah, it had never crossed my mind that we COULD break-up, and maybe just having thought about it being in the realm of possibility would have make things a bit easier. Thanks for reading the WHOLE blog (impressive), and I look forward to staying connected with you!KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-20288708271981813482010-03-31T15:30:58.636-04:002010-03-31T15:30:58.636-04:00I just got through skimming all your old posts. F...I just got through skimming all your old posts. First of all...I really like your blog and writing style and I'm looking forward to reading more. As for the breakup…the whole thing gives me such a pit in my stomach. I live with my boyfriend who is in law school and I really can relate to a lot of the things you talked about when you and SCL were together. Not that I’m trying to make this about me or anything…I just can imagine how crazy I would be if me and my bf to break up…not to mention the hassle of dealing with him moving out and separating stuff. You seem really strong and to be working through this the best way possible. Hang in there.courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00368060921177803100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-90156003070928501442010-03-31T14:12:16.786-04:002010-03-31T14:12:16.786-04:00Thanks to you both. Love the pic, LW! I don't ...Thanks to you both. Love the pic, LW! I don't feel brave, but I do feel like it's good to be open about things like this. At first I felt embarrassed about it. I'd written this blog, told all my friends what a great relationship we had, and then I found out it wasn't what I thought. How embarrassing and hurtful! But now I feel like it's just part of my life, a part I'm not ashamed of, and a part that I will learn from a lot. I already am.KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-40731031057029626602010-03-31T11:03:11.197-04:002010-03-31T11:03:11.197-04:00I think you're very brave for putting this out...I think you're very brave for putting this out in cyberspace. And maybe this will help to get closure for the entire situation.<br /><br />I remember begging an ex to stay with me. Ugh, I hated it. It's like, you don't want to do it but you can't help yourself, you know?<br /><br />Just keep going one day at a time.Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07290616156300143483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-62090320252524966592010-03-31T10:41:19.755-04:002010-03-31T10:41:19.755-04:00thank you for sharing. maybe re-hashing will help ...thank you for sharing. maybe re-hashing will help make it make sense?<br /><br />or maybe not. these things never make sense.<br /><br />for you: http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_sJKV5A7DUis/S7NdI-RaYdI/AAAAAAAAB0Q/S-uTxEbS4k8/s1600/givetimetime.jpglivin widehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18177641806080406988noreply@blogger.com