tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post8698869256818040086..comments2023-06-28T11:26:55.194-04:00Comments on Dancing through NC: Girls' Weekend!...But First, More Thoughts on MarriageKT My Ladyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-62981898048622909922010-06-15T12:11:13.825-04:002010-06-15T12:11:13.825-04:00I love your blog, I catch up from time to time. I ...I love your blog, I catch up from time to time. I have been a bit pissed at SCL for his lukewarmness but I understand why he is this way. Please keep your eyes open honey.Theregoesmybaby!!!noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-87641741994382930462010-06-04T18:28:12.795-04:002010-06-04T18:28:12.795-04:00Also, to answer your questions from the previous p...Also, to answer your questions from the previous post, I'm 23 and my boyfriend just finished his 1st year of his PhD in chemistry, which is usually a 5 year program. And if you want to be a professor, which is his goal, you follow that up with a 2 year post-doc (more or less), then you get offered a job, and then you work like crazy so that you can get tenure. And then you're like, 40. Awesome. Can't wait for that. <br /><br />btw- boston is great. I live in Cambridge, about 1 mile away.Meredithnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-42651048132232315052010-06-04T18:25:03.582-04:002010-06-04T18:25:03.582-04:00Totally agree with you on this: "Sometimes I ...Totally agree with you on this: "Sometimes I wish I were more freaked out by the idea of marriage, that I was in that place of being fine with it happening or not happening. But thoughts like that are so different in the abstract when there is no smart, handsome, compassionate man in my life."<br /><br />I feel the same way. It also doesn't help that none of my close friends have had very serious relationships; as in, 'I can see myself with him' serious. It freaks them out that I am ready to get married. My best friends, whom I grew up with, and know me better than anyone else in my life, don't understand me. It's the first time they can't empathize or give advice. <br /><br />Right now, I want to get married to my current boyfriend (we've talked about it, he's not ready, that's a whole other issue). I really want it. I think what we share is singular and beautiful and we've grown so much since we started dating (there's a lot of growing to do when you're 19). And though I can imagine myself later in life, being single and being happy, right now, it's not what I want. <br /><br />So all of that to say yeah, I get you.Meredithnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-92210788274869594902010-06-04T16:37:00.645-04:002010-06-04T16:37:00.645-04:00Marriage is freaky, even (and especially) when you...Marriage is freaky, even (and especially) when you are in one. There is no magical, perfect person who will make everything easy. It's hard work and it's difficult at times. BUT it is so worth it, and you can end up with a person who is open and willing to take on the challenges that a relationship requires. When two people are willing to work on themselves and their relationship, THAT is magical, THAT is what a lasting marriage is. Being freaked out is pretty much par for the course at times. I totally get where you are coming from.Holly Reneehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18418554147424737958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-44155665950550489102010-06-04T09:54:37.645-04:002010-06-04T09:54:37.645-04:00Thank you, Krysten. You are very gracious.Thank you, Krysten. You are very gracious.KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-3146681368860779272010-06-04T09:52:58.252-04:002010-06-04T09:52:58.252-04:00I think that the fact that you aren't freaked ...I think that the fact that you aren't freaked out by marriage says that you plan on doing things to make marriage work - with whomever you decide to marry.Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07290616156300143483noreply@blogger.com