tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post2711906566529967619..comments2023-06-28T11:26:55.194-04:00Comments on Dancing through NC: Why I Shouldn't Let an 84-Year-Old Ho Make Me CryKT My Ladyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-55256595021564072832010-07-30T18:54:38.123-04:002010-07-30T18:54:38.123-04:00People get set in their ways and you must never le...People get set in their ways and you must never let yourself get caught up in theirs. I'm glad you told someone because had you left it quiet, you would have been stewing unhealthily. Good on you for finding the strength to pass the advice on :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-83735628042228178462010-07-26T14:45:54.306-04:002010-07-26T14:45:54.306-04:00There is one in every group, even if it is a group...There is one in every group, even if it is a group of old ladies.<br /><br />Delete. Delete. Delete. That is what my friends and I say to one another when we hear this stuff. It is not your job to absorb other people's crap.Tina L. Hookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12780807680745838371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-14609873508024871342010-07-25T17:23:17.318-04:002010-07-25T17:23:17.318-04:00That is just a nasty thing to say to someone and I...That is just a nasty thing to say to someone and I really don't care what her background is. All of our actions have consequences and the fact that she hasn't learned that in her 84 years on this earth should tell you something about her character.<br /><br />That being said, I wouldn't take offense to you calling her a "ho" either. Clearly it made you laugh and, after a day of feeling crummy, you deserve to smile :) Chin up, and don't let the old women get you down, girl :)mypixiebloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09135461083810124483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-84411341032667507132010-07-25T17:04:51.618-04:002010-07-25T17:04:51.618-04:00Bitch, bitch, bitch, cunt, cunt, cunt, ho, ho, ho....Bitch, bitch, bitch, cunt, cunt, cunt, ho, ho, ho......yeah, we are being really productive here, ladies. My God! This does nothing to reverse the shit that the Non-Student feels after being told she is fat! Non-Student, I hope you know that you are too strong to internalize the bullshit that insecure folks tell you. The older generation is not prepared to let the next generation of women take the lead and they will let you know that in any way they can. It's time that our generation keeps living into our true selves despite what we are told to be. Yeah, the overall system/world needs to change, but let's not totally rely on that as a precondition for being true to ourselves and true to one another. We will encounter many assholes in our lives, but it is our obligation to let them know how they have hurt us (as you did, Non-Student) while being aware of their own insecurities and setbacks. That's all.Jliunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-34549749287956608262010-07-24T20:36:16.404-04:002010-07-24T20:36:16.404-04:00when i was 17 and trying on a prom dress, my grand...when i was 17 and trying on a prom dress, my grandma happened to be in town and at the mall with us. she told me i have a "weird" body. i am 30, and it still hurts my feelings. i didn't say anything to her but should have. good for you for saying something. anyway- a bitch, is a bitch, is a bitch :)Courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15274591862559243657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-51925902652332885512010-07-24T08:01:00.433-04:002010-07-24T08:01:00.433-04:00Thanks for making me feel slightly less guilty, Ja...Thanks for making me feel slightly less guilty, Jane! The word is so absurd to use in reference to a proper 84-year-old woman. And when I was really upset and SCL said that, it was the first time I'd laughed that evening.KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-69832209681472530862010-07-24T00:13:08.911-04:002010-07-24T00:13:08.911-04:00Sexist or not, there is something funny about hear...Sexist or not, there is something funny about hearing an old lady referred to as a "random old ho." I can't help but laugh. But then again, I'm sort of a bad person. Glad you're feeling better about things. People really can start to lose their minds as they get older (not everyone, of course, but some people) and they really just stop making sense. It's hard not to take it personally sometimes, but it really has nothing to do with anyone but them.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08417356206569429078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-79209979454622579742010-07-23T23:12:28.319-04:002010-07-23T23:12:28.319-04:00Point well taken, Jiliu. You are so right! The lan...Point well taken, Jiliu. You are so right! The language I used was not cool. I did, in fact, tell her that she had really hurt my feelings, and she apologized. And I can honestly say all is well now.KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-65607776290422853592010-07-23T22:29:34.362-04:002010-07-23T22:29:34.362-04:00This has happened to me sooo many times and I unde...This has happened to me sooo many times and I understand completely, but why the sexist language to describe this woman? Yeah, she made a big mistake and should not have said such things. Perhaps this could have been turned into a teachable moment. Tell a sistah that she's being offensive, don't let that shit slide and certainly don't let it sink in. This woman is not a "bitch", "hag", etc. She's just another sister who has insecurities like many women do and needs to be called out for it and given support. The last woman who told me I was "fat" and "overweight" turned out to have a history with rape and abuse - we talked about it and mutual understanding was achieved. You never know the history behind the claims such people make about other's bodies. I appreciate the post, but plz cool it on the sexist language; you are employing the language of the patriarchy you deplore. Women are socialized to take other peoples' insecurities personally - we gotta stop and let this shit roll off our backs or while doing so, we give the offensive party a piece of our minds.Jliunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-43589534952058491442010-07-23T21:01:19.491-04:002010-07-23T21:01:19.491-04:00What the heck!!? Old people sometimes! ooo weee! A...What the heck!!? Old people sometimes! ooo weee! All our patients our 65+ and let me tell you, it gets worse! And its like the are so bitter about life they just cannot see the good in anything and its terribly sad! Cheer up lady =DNicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108218998705465146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-17217185685374052172010-07-23T17:29:01.540-04:002010-07-23T17:29:01.540-04:00UGH! What a old hag! I hate when people's comm...UGH! What a old hag! I hate when people's comments make me cry, because I can be so sensitive. I could totally see myself crying over this but you are so right that our joy is ours. We can't let other judgments make us feel inferior when we know who we are and what we are capable of.Stephanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01664500645286563334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-8985946921387043122010-07-23T17:07:26.226-04:002010-07-23T17:07:26.226-04:00Screw that lady! I woulda flipped shit if someone ...Screw that lady! I woulda flipped shit if someone had said that to me...but you seemed to keep your cool pretty well.<br /><br />-Morgan<br />(Following you)Morgan @ Literati Book Reviewshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14109473861814589399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-54629633208394102702010-07-23T15:37:01.180-04:002010-07-23T15:37:01.180-04:00When people do that I think to myself, "Wow, ...When people do that I think to myself, "Wow, how miserable must their lives be that they feel the need to make everyone around them as unhappy as they are." That's what it is. This woman is so miserable that she felt like being a bitch and bringing you down.<br /><br />Don't let her! DON'T! Let her go be a miserable old hag and you continue to be your wonderful, witty, insightful self.<br /><br />And seriously... Michelle Obama overweight? That old hag definitely needs to get her priorities straight! Michelle is classy and gorgeous and certainly not overweight. Lord!Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07290616156300143483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-5353322648346414432010-07-23T14:22:47.438-04:002010-07-23T14:22:47.438-04:00So glad!So glad!KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-67822662175404496732010-07-23T14:17:30.219-04:002010-07-23T14:17:30.219-04:00I love you, dude. I needed to hear this so bad tod...I love you, dude. I needed to hear this so bad today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com