tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post4518075758965069962..comments2023-06-28T11:26:55.194-04:00Comments on Dancing through NC: Think Again Thursday: On CompromiseKT My Ladyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-68739472100796018482010-07-16T23:00:33.929-04:002010-07-16T23:00:33.929-04:00Very well written... and very true. I hate to rep...Very well written... and very true. I hate to repeat what others have already said but... it's very thought provoking and a great post!Mollynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-24554750459667654732010-07-16T22:36:41.390-04:002010-07-16T22:36:41.390-04:00I like to think of it, as they say "pick your...I like to think of it, as they say "pick your Battles" you have picked the ones that make sense and the rest is not worth the ruffled feathers =D I love how much you are learning and teaching us at the same time! Have a great weekend!Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108218998705465146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-67843956560898756252010-07-15T20:14:25.647-04:002010-07-15T20:14:25.647-04:00A while ago, I wrote a post on "Non-Negotiabl...A while ago, I wrote a post on "Non-Negotiables" and what I called "Trivial Points". My non-negotiables included things I will not, under any circumstances, compromise on. (Involving faith, family, and someone who doesn't smoke.) And then there were points that were important to me, but I could compromise on if push came to shove. <br /><br />Of course, these all relate to my future husband & I'm not in a relationship now so I know there will be a lot of other compromising "opportunities" that will arise in regards to just being together. I know it's such an important aspect of any type of relationship, but sometimes I have SUCH a hard time of it. <br /><br />Thanks for such a thought-provoking post!Stephanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01664500645286563334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-33121331502338689292010-07-15T16:26:13.429-04:002010-07-15T16:26:13.429-04:00Compromise is the biggest factor in any relationsh...Compromise is the biggest factor in any relationship. As you said: the big picture stuff that's important to you... don't settle for any less. But every now and then you'll want to hang a painting he hates or whatever and it's all about finding a fair balance. <br /><br />I think the worst thing in the world is the societal pressure and feeling like we need to keep up with everyone else's timeline. Truth be told: that simply doesn't work in every relationship. And the girlfriends I have who were so intent on getting to that alter are either not entirely happily married now or divorced. <br /><br />I really wanted the wedding to, for what it symbolized for me. I had been with someone for a very long time and it felt right. But he wasn't giving me all the things I would have needed and that is completely unfair to me. I'm much happier on my own now than I would have been if I had been married. The point is that you have to figure out what you want out of this relationship and to hell with what those around you say. Because they're not in it with you.mypixiebloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09135461083810124483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-91846422187815369242010-07-15T13:52:52.998-04:002010-07-15T13:52:52.998-04:00compromise is one of the BIGGEST things and someth...compromise is one of the BIGGEST things and something we absolutely have to be able to do for a relationship to be able to flourish and survive...so this is good, really good.Chelsea Talks Smackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17998747129805795801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-19206942620238221402010-07-15T13:41:44.028-04:002010-07-15T13:41:44.028-04:00Compromise is such a HUGE part of relationships. ...Compromise is such a HUGE part of relationships. You are never going to totally agree with someone and it's good to know what you would and would not compromise on. You don't want to be with someone who would ask you to compromise something huge (and you wouldn't want to do the same either) but you also want to know that you are with someone that is willing to compromise on the little things. It goes hand in hand and I love the way you laid this out.Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07290616156300143483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-64144984250754235552010-07-15T13:32:56.273-04:002010-07-15T13:32:56.273-04:00I'm glad to see you sort through what you won&...I'm glad to see you sort through what you won't compromise on and what you will. That's an IMPORTANT distinction in a relationship, so kudos to you.<br /><br />Especially on the engagement stuff... I mean, if he is the person you want to be with, the relationship is what matters, not the various engagement/wedding accoutrements.Capital Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16647853470297792361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-7994098471299842582010-07-15T12:46:34.716-04:002010-07-15T12:46:34.716-04:00Oh yes, all those personality differences--the pac...Oh yes, all those personality differences--the pack rats vs. the Goodwill donation addicts (like me). I think that's why it's so important to talk about everything--otherwise getting rid of the t-shirt collection can become an argument about power dynamics in the relationship. Hence my couch blow up.KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-53888898382148970582010-07-15T12:35:35.932-04:002010-07-15T12:35:35.932-04:00Good post - thought provoking, for sure! I'm ...Good post - thought provoking, for sure! I'm not an easy one to compromise, but a lot of times, both my husband and I have to, to reach a middle ground somewhere. It's rarely one person's way - we're pretty good at reaching a point where we're both satisfied. HOWEVER, we are beginning to disagree on some moving related issues. Not about where, when, or how... it's about the clutter I want to get rid of, and he can't bare to part with it! And vice versa! This will no doubt be our next biggest challenge.Steph @ Professors_Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03968911934330532312noreply@blogger.com