tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post7695191791965094301..comments2023-06-28T11:26:55.194-04:00Comments on Dancing through NC: More Confusion than Clarity: Week Six of TherapyKT My Ladyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-90270841495226986342010-05-19T09:58:49.857-04:002010-05-19T09:58:49.857-04:00BK, you should see some of the comments of his tha...BK, you should see some of the comments of his that I didn't post! And yes, I'm coming around to the idea of not living together. Going to look at some places this evening in fact!KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-44186298587918332402010-05-19T00:43:31.390-04:002010-05-19T00:43:31.390-04:00Ok Anon got a little harsh on this one. (And by a ...Ok Anon got a little harsh on this one. (And by a little I mean a lot). SCL isn't going to do all his changing overnight. No guy goes to therapy with someone he isn't committed to! It just might take a little time for him to be comfortable with the thought of forever, and then even more time for him to verbalize it :) I'm really happy you guys are back together, but I like the idea of living separately for now. My mom always told me not to move in with a guy until I have a ring and a wedding date!Bunny Kidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13042257650270473739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-78839639231691110102010-05-18T20:47:35.110-04:002010-05-18T20:47:35.110-04:00tell that boy to shape up or i'm gonna have to...tell that boy to shape up or i'm gonna have to dropkick him when i'm out in d.c.livin widehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18177641806080406988noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-44747377461354013892010-05-14T00:21:48.880-04:002010-05-14T00:21:48.880-04:00Anon=SCL lolAnon=SCL lolNicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108218998705465146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-49274503584606998402010-05-13T23:03:28.688-04:002010-05-13T23:03:28.688-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.fancy pantalonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13639780477135419036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-58718773859105801422010-05-12T22:40:18.453-04:002010-05-12T22:40:18.453-04:00Anon, you'll be glad to know that my current b...Anon, you'll be glad to know that my current book is The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins. Also appreciate you taking it down a notch on the asshole scale.KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-81624342754798464092010-05-12T22:19:04.442-04:002010-05-12T22:19:04.442-04:00You know what the answer is. He's not ready. ...You know what the answer is. He's not ready. And no matter how many therapy sessions you get him to go to, the only thing that's going to make him ready is being ready. This is even more clear based on your post. For whatever reasons, he is going through the motions with you. Maybe he really does love you. You can love someone and not be ready to make that heavy of a committment. Maybe he even wants to be ready. But until you're ready, you can't make yourself be ready. It comes from within. Either you really feel it or you don't. That doesn't mean all hope is lost. Your boyfriend is like a scared rabbit right now. The best thing you can do is leave him alone and let him figure it out without ANY pressure. And the best way to do that is to move out and start to cultivate a genuine life of our own. You moved there with him, which is kind of too bad. But now you have a career there, so you have to find a life there, too. Friends, hobbies, activities. Make him miss you, value you, cherish you. You pretty much have no other choice. And if he's not cutting it, move along. Don't waste any more time with someone who's not into it for the long haul if the long haul is what you desire. I know you love him, but that's really beside the point. A lot of people have loved people that weren't "the one". And stop reading all the books. Give it a rest, already. Because, honestly, you can read all the books you want. You can have a stack of books 10 feet high, but if he's not there with you, it really doesn't matter. He's the one with the problem, and you can't fix him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-40295658775348637322010-05-12T21:37:18.340-04:002010-05-12T21:37:18.340-04:00It's funny but I think I would want all of tho...It's funny but I think I would want all of those points you mentioned in my own relationship. I think it's important to feel cherished, worthy, and that you're in a partnership.<br /><br />I'm really excited to hear about how the therapy session goes between the two of you! Yay!Stephanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01664500645286563334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-75100342323445581152010-05-12T20:44:30.908-04:002010-05-12T20:44:30.908-04:00Hells yeah! =D
I think you know the answer to th...Hells yeah! =D <br /><br />I think you know the answer to the living situation, but its hard to digest. I once asked the bf if he thought that if I moved out that it would mean we have broken up and he said not at all. While I was relieved because sometimes I feel like whoa wait a minute what the heck r we doing and I wonder if me moving out would me the end, I am glad to know its not!<br /><br />Good Luck with the combined therapy let us know how it goes =DNicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17108218998705465146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-62329932536884684882010-05-12T10:00:11.678-04:002010-05-12T10:00:11.678-04:00Hells yeah from me :)
But seriously...I think it ...Hells yeah from me :)<br /><br />But seriously...I think it is great to know what you actually want!courtneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00368060921177803100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-30927502542189282112010-05-12T09:58:07.341-04:002010-05-12T09:58:07.341-04:00I think it'll be really good for both of you t...I think it'll be really good for both of you to attend a therapy session together. Let us know how it goes!Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07290616156300143483noreply@blogger.com