tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post7769857954386506570..comments2023-06-28T11:26:55.194-04:00Comments on Dancing through NC: On Being a "Nice Girl": Week Thirteen of TherapyKT My Ladyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-77457943298758180242010-11-04T14:15:42.342-04:002010-11-04T14:15:42.342-04:00Living in the South, I see the "nice girl&quo...Living in the South, I see the "nice girl" all the time. Sometimes it drives me nuts because I'll see girls do things they don't want to in order to keep the peace, and even make decisions that put themselves in danger (i.e. not insisting on calling a cab when their date is drunk). The way I see it is that you can't spend so much time making everyone else happy that you make yourself unhappy.Aubrey S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10463029915830355954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-53090536062540351322010-11-04T13:31:49.439-04:002010-11-04T13:31:49.439-04:00@ Capitol Hill, send me an email thenonstudent (at...@ Capitol Hill, send me an email thenonstudent (at) gmail (dot) com and I can send you some suggestions.<br /><br />@ Lilly-- Have been reading your book a lot lately. Thank you!KT My Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07045966201880044927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-88314379955519663762010-11-03T16:32:07.157-04:002010-11-03T16:32:07.157-04:00Holy moly I feel you on this one. For the past tw...Holy moly I feel you on this one. For the past two years I have been teaching myself to be more assertive, in every way. But still, the thought of breaking up with someone (a perfectly nice guy, for instance) gives me the chills. It's so hard (being assertive), and I wonder sometimes if I'll ever stop working so hard at it, but I think I just need to be patient. But I'm right there with ya girl.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-21830929450717639672010-11-03T11:14:49.219-04:002010-11-03T11:14:49.219-04:00I have thought about going to church, its just har...I have thought about going to church, its just hard to find one around here -- any suggestions?Capitol Hill 20210https://www.blogger.com/profile/14728522554591134160noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-81345839184355348922010-11-03T09:58:54.820-04:002010-11-03T09:58:54.820-04:00I think I have a serious nice girl problem too, at...I think I have a serious nice girl problem too, at least in terms of making my needs known/heard in a relationship. I'm glad you're feeling better! Turning down the tennis pro would have been hard for me too, but props to you for doing it for yourself!<br /><br />xx,<br />Delilahdating divahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05634826148056884866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-78620419149723590512010-11-02T23:03:54.829-04:002010-11-02T23:03:54.829-04:00Totally hear you on the nice girl syndrome. Turni...Totally hear you on the nice girl syndrome. Turning down the date sounds like the right thing to do, and it's good that you're feeling better!Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17917351901695105543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-86441056515746375412010-11-02T21:06:21.799-04:002010-11-02T21:06:21.799-04:00I think it's great that you're realizing w...I think it's great that you're realizing what you want to change, what needs to change for you to be happy. It's such a big step.Stephanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01664500645286563334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-39535755926958142892010-11-02T19:38:00.914-04:002010-11-02T19:38:00.914-04:00I am recently going through a very similar break u...I am recently going through a very similar break up to what you went through. I found your blog by accident but I loved reading your journey and I think you're awesome and a great motivation!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7354936394077279437.post-57496868910261972942010-11-02T19:15:26.334-04:002010-11-02T19:15:26.334-04:00Ugh I so know how you feel. This happens especial...Ugh I so know how you feel. This happens especially when work calls wanting me to fill in a shift because no matter what I always feel bad, even if I have a good reason for saying no.<br /><br />I'm glad you're recognizing this in yourself and working on it. It'll make you a stronger, happier person in the long run.Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07290616156300143483noreply@blogger.com