Last-minute Date with Mr. Homeland Security

Silly me, I thought returning home would result in an instant release in tension, stress, and anxiety. It has been anything but because I cannot chill the fuck out. There's only so much sleeping a girl can do, you know? I spent yesterday's therapy session talking with C about how I can relax. So, today I am going to have a "me" day as much as possible: a trip to Nordstrom Rack, checking out mindless fiction from the library, hitting the gym, and getting a deep tissue massage. And, there's the date with Mr. Editor! I'm also staying away from Gchat, Facebook, and eHarmony emails which are all stressing me out at the moment.

Backing up to Monday night, I decided at around 3:00 PM to follow up with Mr. Homeland Security (eHarm  dude) on his offer to take me out. It was a shameless move, mostly motivated by a lack of food in my house (hey, I've been gone for three weeks!), but I also was stressing out about SCL and Dr. Nutrition. And what better way to get your mind off of a guy than to go out with a new one? I realize how sick this all sounds, but stick with me.

I emailed Mr. Homeland Security and said, "I know this is last minute, but are you still up for getting together tonight?" I did not add that I desperately needed food. He called me on his break and invited me to a great happy hour in Alexandria.

Mr. Homeland Security surprised me--he was actually better looking than in his profile pictures. He's 35, tall, and has remnants of a North Carolina accent, which I totally dig. He was also super outgoing, funny, and very, very talkative. There wasn't an awkward pause the whole weekend. We sat at the bar, had a few glasses of wine and ate delicious bar food before he asked me if I wanted to take a walk on the waterfront.

I think what really did it for me was when we realized that his grandmother had lived in my hometown and he had vacationed there as a kid. Nothing like hearing familiar places and names to make a girl swoon. I liked his bit of Southern charm and how fun-loving he has. Sometimes his talkativeness overwhelmed me a little, but all in all, I liked him. And I felt completely comfortable with him, enough so that I let him kiss me goodnight--a first for me! I never kiss on the first date. (By "never," I mean in my limited three or so months of dating.) The wine might've helped, too. I think I feel a shift in how I feel about dating, like maybe I'm getting slightly better at it.

So, I guess I'm back on the "dating multiple people" train. I emailed Dr. Nutrition for a date yesterday morning and haven't heard back yet. In the meantime, I'm keeping my options open and looking forward to tonight's date with Mr. Editor. Wish me luck!

Update: Mr. Homeland Security just called for a second date...for tomorrow! I may make him wait a little longer than that, but I'm definitely up for another date.


  1. Oooooh, Mr. Homeland Security sounds nice!

    Good luck with the date with Mr. Editor and if Dr. Nutrition knows what's good for him he better email or call you soon!

    Oh and I'm so happy we chatted when we did yesterday. I was in the middle of a total freak out and by the time we were done chatting I was calmed down =-) You rock.

  2. I just started reading Katie's blog (Date me, DC) and found you through her. I'm so jealous of your dating success, but you guys are inspiring me to get out there more.

  3. I like the way Mr. Homeland Security sounds! I am inspired by your juggling...good luck on tonight's date!

  4. He sounds really fun/nice/relaxed, etc. Like Kate's comment, I think it's awesome that you're seeing so many guys. Hopefully it'll really help you narrow down what you want. This is me...jealous.

  5. Good luck with tonight's date! I've never kissed someone on the first date either. When is that usually supposed to happen? The 2nd date? I have no idea haha. It sounds like you had a great time though!


  6. Thanks for the good luck, everyone! I feel the love. :-)

    @Krysten--You know you're my sounding board, too!

    @Kate--Glad you're reading. Now get out there!

    @J--Don't be too impressed yet...

    @sarg--I'd be happy to share. I think it's also pretty tiring to bounce around so much. It seems to be feast or famine--I think I already have three dates set up for next week, all first dates at that!

    @Delilah--Glad I'm not the only one. I think if there's chemistry, first date is ok. But end of second is ideal to me.

  7. Mr. Homeland Security sounds adorable! Love that you let him kiss you -- I'm all about a kiss on the first date. :) Good luck! I love reading all your dating adventures.