The Remnants of Online Dating

So, as you know, I ventured into the world of online dating for a few weeks before SCL decided he'd been a big idiot in breaking up with me and wanted to start over. After a few days, I figured I'd better at least disable my dating account, not wanting to mislead my "many" suitors. Then all hell broke loose.

One guy wrote back to say that he hadn't had a girlfriend in 5 years, that I was added to his long list of women who'd rather give their ex another chance than go out with him, that I shouldn't come back to him when things don't work out between SCL and me, and that he was VERY interested. It made me laugh my ass off. No wonder he hasn't had a girlfriend in years. He's a psycho.

Then there's J, the one guy I seriously talked with continuously throughout my short online dating experience. He seems really nice, but we hold opposing political views, which I figured ultimately would interfere with our having a chance at a real relationship. He was pretty cute, though, and I was willing to date him. We never got around to making actual plans when SCL and I began to reconcile. I couldn't just cut him off the way I had the others. I felt like I needed to tell him. Over facebook chat. I told him SCL and I were working things out, and I thought this would be enough for him to get the picture.

Apparently not. He keeps calling me, and I keep ignoring him. He keeps texting me, and I ignore those, too. I've told SCL about it, both because I want to be transparent and because I feel a little creeped out by it. Do I continue to ignore him and eventually he'll stop? Do I spell things out more clearly for him? I'm not used to balancing more than one guy, so any advice would be most helpful, bloggy friends.